Help! I’m a Busy Mom but I want to raise Wholesome Kids.
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5 Tips that can radically help you as a Busy Mom
I totally get it. You want to instil certain values in your kids. You want to pray for them, teach them God’s word, read to them every night, be present yet still pursue your career or Business with vigour but the struggle is real! I get it. Here are some things that can help:
Let Go of Guilt! - You can’t carry the heavyweight of guilt and expect to have the clarity of mind required to raise your kids. You need to be in a good shape mentally so you can think out strategies that would work for you and your family. Do you remember the widow’s mite? She had so little but God counted her contribution as the most valuable. You “little contribution can achieve a lot”. As long as you are making the most of the widow’s mite limited time you have and you are giving it to your children with all your heart, Rest. God has the capacity to multiply your 5 loaves of Bread and 2 Fishes. Let go of Guilt – Mom Guilt. It can weigh you down and stop you from thinking clearly, seeing with the right perspective and doing things better.
Leverage Community & Get PRAYING FRIENDS. If you don’t have a circle of PRAYING friends, I don’t mean “gisting” or “talking” friends, I mean PRAYING FRIENDS, please create it. Be the friend that sets the day, time + an automatic google reminder for PRAYING BIBLE BASED STRATEGIC PRAYERS. You don’t need a crowd. Just 2 to 3 people, 30 minutes 3 times a week. Strictly prayer. This is important because what you cannot do while you’re not there, prayer can do it in many ways. As you look back on your life’s journey you’ll realise somehow your child will make the right friends, and somehow your child will escape certain things. Somehow your child would be in the right place at the right time. My people say the masquerade doesn’t just dance, there is someone behind the drums somewhere. Let Prayer be the one drumming and doing things that you cannot do. Prayer works! Alternatively – Get your Partner involved.
Make the most of the time you have! That period between when you get back from work and bedtime, you need to psychologically prep yourself before getting home. Tell yourself you’re going to commit to giving that time wholeheartedly to your child. No phones, No distractions. Yes I understand you may be tired and you just want to hit the bed but remember you haven’t spent the whole day with that child. You have to do what you have to do.. Parenting is also important WORK! So you need to push yourself and commit to it just the way you do for your 9-5. That 1 hour or 45 Minutes can become a Power packed time that your Child looks forward to every day. Get a Book they love and read it to them. Make Bedtime routine something they always look forward to. You can also make sure you’re the one doing other little things at bedtime e.g – Take their Bath, Snuggle, Hug, Cuddle, Ask strategic questions etc
Maximise your Weekends or any other free time you have – Use weekends particularly Sundays as a time to Bond. Protect that day at all cost and politely and respectfully say no to activities or events on Sundays. Play, roll on the floor, bake together, cook, visit new places. Even if you do nothing with your child that day, just being there, being present counts!
Use the random moments – While Driving with them in the car, while bathing them in the morning or night, Quick Videos calls, Do your Devotion in their room before leaving the house. Let them actually see you walk with the Lord in those random moments. Tiny drops of water they say, makes a mighty ocean. You’ll be shocked that they actually notice the effort you are making much later in their lives.
Use your support staff to achieve your goals; to your advantage. Give specific instructions to your support Staff on certain things you want them to instil in your child. E.g Every morning if you won’t be around for a period ask that they teach your child certain things.
